Outward Signs

I've been thinking this morning of those outward signs.... some signs may be more outward than others, and some signs may actually be instigated by the sub rather than her Dominant.

Seems to be several things going on here....

• The Dominant may indicate that he has a preference for a particular outward sign. He desires her to comply with his wishes, she desires to please him by doing so.

• The submissive may indicate an interest in acquiring an outward sign or symbol. The Dominant may choose to encourage her in that direction ..... or not.

• It may or may not be important that an outward sign of her Sir's choosing be "ok'd" by the submissive and it depends upon where in the relationship they are.... if they are at a point where she is his, completely.... or if she is his slave, then giving the "ok" is probably not an option by the sub/slave.

• If it's going to happen, they'll both anticipate it which heightens the pleasurable thoughts and deepens the Dominant and submissive feelings. I wonder if the anticipation helps "grow the bond"?

• Once the outward sign is in place, it is a constant reminder to both of who they are as a couple. I would think that it goes to another level for the submissive in that it deeply symbolizes that she IS a submissive woman .... so much so that she is willing to wear a symbol of the fact.

• It may be a constant sign of ownership, as in a collar or other piece of jewelry.

• For me, i enjoy wearing my play collar, not as a symbol of ownership, but because it puts me into a submissive mind-set.

• It may be a requirement to wear or not to wear something.

• It may be an erotic pleasure---- as with the ring