Illusion or No?

Today i wonder how much a person determines their path by the power of their own thoughts. Given that each of us grows well into adulthood and are formed by a process of our natures but also our nurture, how much of a peace filled life is created by accepting life as is? And how much is created by working towards a more fullfilling goal. What if we always strive to view the glass as half full and be thankful for that?

Some years ago i saw myself in the descriptions of submissives. I'm happy that i did. So, now that i know and accept, what's next? Accept and get on with life, business as usual? Do i work at keeping a heightened sense of submissive self? What happens if i don't? Do these desires in me become fueled by what i put into my mind? Or do the thoughts in my mind grow there out of natural need to find expression?