Pleasing

There is a symbiotic relationship between a Dom and a sub. One of the ways this occurs is in how we please one another....

it has been said that subs are natural pleasers. i think Doms also want to please.....

What are some ways of a sub pleasing her Dom?

• being accountable, consistently
• lifting him up... meaning putting his needs before her own, not to the exclusion of her needs, but in addition to.... knowing that in meeting His needs, hers will be met.... anything other than working to this goal and i think things are off kilter....
• presenting herself well in a way that honors Him..... not only physically but in her manner of speaking to him and what she says... how she says it.... putting him first in the eyes of others and soooo importantly, MAKING him first in her eyes and in her world as much as is possible

Now, how about turning all of those around and apply as a Dom taking care of his little one? smiles...... it's beautiful, isn't it? i don't think it is at all vanilla....

This works because W/we know our place.... we know who we are..... I would not ever want to top Sir from the bottom.... it is not a "power-over" situation from either point of view. Nothing passive aggressive, nothing aggressive, nothing totally passive, it is purely taking care of one another within the framework of Dominance and submission. Knowing my place as He knows His. i love my place under Him. i want to serve him.

i know this is a simplification... life is so complex .... i'll never understand why and how it works, maybe it is just because you are you and i am me....